I've received several letters from people asking about dating, finding Mister or Miss Right. Rather than having multiple responses I decided to compile it into one response.
The common theme I have seen has been individuals devaluing themselves. Fears that if they aren't in the process of planning a wedding by the time they are 25-30 years of age that they will never marry. There was even a letter from one 18 year old girl/woman that was worried that she would grow old alone because she wasn't already in a serious relationship!
The door to happiness doesn't slam shut when a person hits the age of 20, 30, 40, or even 50. You really do have the luxury of waiting until you've met somebody you're truly in love with as opposed to settling for the first one that shows interest. Settling is just setting yourself up for a messy divorce on down the line, and several years of depression until the divorce happens.
It is not uncommon in today's society for people to wait until their thirties ,or even forties, to settle down and start a family. People are living much longer, healthier lives than they did even thirty or forty years ago. Women are having children in their thirties and forties.
Be patient, don't be afraid to date a few wrong people in order to find the right one. Just don't settle on the wrong ones.
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